Your true partner has already been decided; it is set above. It is already a commitment, without even knowing, it is an event set to happen by you.
The cosmos knows. Your soul knows. Your gut instinct knows. You have been partners many lifetimes before.
There is nothing ‘new’, it feels like you have been married a hundred times before. The other person knows what to say or not say, to evolve the process.
You will always come back to each other, or stick together in some way because of the enormous magnetic pull to each other. As they say in the movie Avatar ‘ I see you’. Those words are more than ‘I love you’.
The words have many more dimensions behind it:
‘I see your soul.’ I love your soul, with all aspects that goes with it. Everything. The whole package. – This is the ‘I see you’.
Many people do not find it appealing anymore, to marry the traditional ways. We say vows we do not feel in the heart, sign a ‘contract’ for an institute and spend a lot of money on a sacred ceremony that transcends the need for material.
Relationships of the Past
There is a time and place for everything. You cannot change someone’s feelings, and you cannot ‘ make it work’, when it has already been broken and the other person is not fighting for love. It takes two to Tango, It is a lover’s dance…
Someone who does not want to be in their power (commitment to themselves) will never be able to commit to you.
On the road of your past relationships and affairs, you learned who you are, what you need to shine, bloom, blossom and stay strong in a world, that has so many challenges.
You learned about your personality and your ego-aspects. You learned how to be a strong person, and how to make a future partner a powerful and strong person by the vibration you are able to send in a connection based on Truth. That is how you love in a way that makes the other person stronger, not weaker.
Your reflection – Meeting yourself
When you find someone, who is true to their own soul, who has taken all the time, to find out their own pains, heals them self, and created the strength to get out of it… They are able to commit to you.
They need to be true to their ESSENCE. And that takes wisdom, soul searching, falling down and standing up. When you are committed to yourself, because you have seen both the darkest and the lightest places, you are able to ‘ see’ your reflection in someone else.
When you feel a partner is living from the heart, and loves themselves, you will not have a fear-based relationship.
For instance, your partner can be in a room with twenty beautiful other people or they can travel the world without you. You can let him have thousands of friends and you just have ‘ peace and trust’, because you know the commitment is from the heart.
It is a divine connection. You both have rest/stillness and calm, NOT a fear-based relation. You can have your own travel, your own path, and yet…. You know the path of your loved one, is right next to yours.
You can sit back, and breathe. When you have peace and rest with a partner, it is, because you feel you can trust this person. And you know you can trust yourself.
Marriage without a True Heart Connection
So many traditional marriages ‘break’ because it is not a relationship based on a heart connection. It is not based on a true soul-travel. It is based on outside factors like social standards.
Things like money, safety, and a longing for someone to make you feel whole are some are the main reasons we rush to get married.
It’s an act of proving that you love someone, that you’re really committed, when isn’t just loving them enough? Why do we need to prove that our love is real? It should be obvious to all who look.
Most people struggle with the idea of self-love and how it is to feel safety INside themselves. When you are able to give yourself attention, feed yourself with soul-food, love, and fulfillment: You do not need to find love externally. It is always existing inside you already.
Darkness dissolves in The Light of Love
The energy of the heart is so strong, much more powerful than the power of the mind. We don’t give it the credit it truly deserves.
In a cosmic marriage, all the ‘ unseen’ and dark places hidden deep in the heart will appear in the light of love. Darkness will always peak in the heights of ‘ being in love’. Love is the highest vibration. Darkness is a much lower vibration.
If someone loves you truly, all the unseen aspect will come up for they are showing you what you can change. Just breath, walk, sing, dance, cry, and let it be ‘ there’. Do not judge your fears and insecurities.
When we can genuinely say ‘Thank you’, and ‘I see you’, we create real transformation within us. Do not think your lover is the cause of this pain. See it differently.
Your lover is only picking up the mirror, and wants to heal you by showing you all the aspects of yourself. Sometimes we don’t want to look, but that is the only way to grow.
Article written by Leda de Zwaan