Each of us will experience a personal trauma in our lives. The loss of a loved one, a major change in your life, and even a divorce qualify as personal trauma. These traumas can be hard to escape. What can we do to help ourselves recover?
1. Let yourself feel the pain.
Don’t try to stave off the feelings of pain through alcohol and addictive behaviors. Don’t hide from these feelings. Instead, feel them. Sure, you’ll feel low for a while, but in order to heal fully, you have to let yourself experience feelings of pain.
2. Take all the time you need.
After you’ve experienced a terrible chaos, there’s no need to jump right back into life right away. If you were broken up with, don’t find a new partner right away. If you lose a loved one, there’s no need to walk it off. Take all the time you need to recover.
3. Add joy to your life.
You don’t need to be forcing happiness upon yourself, but bring it back little by little. Start doing the things you love again. But little by little. There’s no need to rush back into old routines. Do it on your time.
If there’s someone to forgive, begin working toward forgiveness. Remember that hate and grudges is like drinking a poison and expecting the other person to get a stomach ache. In the end, it’ll hold you up from complete recovery.
5. When you’re ready, tell your story.
When you’re in the process of recovery, telling your story can be too painful. Instead, wait until you’re totally ready, then write it all out. Write out how you felt. Write out what happened afterward. Write out what it means to you today. Tell your story, even if no one will ever read it.